Life without D.R.A.M.A. = Dysfunctional Relationships Attracting Maximum Attention

For those of us who are Christians, we might remember that Adam and Eve goofed when instead of maintaining their relationship with God; they allowed the snake to drop in. That brings us right about where we are today. We allow snakes to slither in from all sources all dressed up, some in jeans, fur coats, bikes, limos, suits, Louis Vuitton, Dolce & Gabbana, Kmart’s private brand, or flip flops. Man, woman, boy or girl, afroed, weaved, blonde, blue-eyed, green eyes, blind eyes, it is still a slithering snake.

The snaking is cunning, charming and sucks you right into their dysfunctional relationship to attract the maximum attention possible. Poor Adam got so confused, he didn’t blame the snake. So, who did he blame? His rib---Eve. The relationship would not have gone sour if Adam and Eve had not lost focus of the relationship they were suppose to have with God. The obedience and trust they were to have in God, got displaced on a snake. Now, in modern day one of my girls would say, “Let him slither away with the snake….” But, in this case the snake got to his soul mate first. So, Adam was blindsided, caught up in the emotion, brought into the middle of a conversation his mate had with a snake. We know who the snake represented. So, Adam (who supposedly had his own mind), followed the snake (via Eve). He was enticed, and charmed. She spun Adam’s head around like a spinning top. He tasted the fruit-he loved the fruit. He got caught with the worm in his mouth. What happened next is the DRAMA. Blaming Eve, he spewed unkind, thoughtless and disrespect; and both were ashamed before God because they were not focused on the real relationship.

Adam should have walked away. The snake caught Eve in the Garden of Eden, alone. Adam already had his instruction. Eve knew better, but…that snake caught her on the wrong day! So, Adam succumbed and lowered himself. Eve succumbed and lowered herself. The snake? Got belly duty for life! However, it is still slithering in and out of lives, friendships, relationships, and finances. Happy to mess up, cause a scene, maybe call in more snakes for back up. One thing that is consistent about the snake, it recoils after the kill-snickering from the uproar it caused. So guess who’s left?

We are so much larger than the snake physically, yet we are so weak to its confusion, charm, and deception. Instinctively, we know what is wrong, because Christian or not we are born with a conscious unless we have a psychological deficit. That’s another day. We can smell the stench of drama brewing. Some folks are drama magnets. It is up to the rest of us to determine that we do not want to be in the drama stew. We don’t know what or who is down there in that pot of drama. And folks that readily walk into it, and call other people into it are the snakes in this story. Drama is not drama without an audience. Lots of noise, clapping, tongues wagging, and stupid comments-then the snake slithers to the next victim.

You cannot hide evil, a liar, or a coward. They will all come to surface. But, don’t get confused about who’s who---do a background check on the snake. Biblically, it is in Proverbs 23:7, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." Our actions show the true content in our hearts. However, before we grab a fig leaf to hide ourselves, and start pointing, turn to the snake…s/he is getting away. The snake will let you take it in and as the song said, “…shut up…you knew I was a snake before you took me in!” A boa constrictor caresses you tightly before the kill. Wherever there’s drama, there’s the snake.

by Somebody's daughter, a few folks friend, and a Mother of a young woman.

Psalm 52: “…Why do you boast in evil, O mighty man? Your tongue devises destruction, like a sharp razor, working deceitfully. You love evil more than good, lying rather than speaking righteousness. Selah you love all devouring words, you deceitful tongue.”